A note from Joelle...
The folks at giffgaff asked me to explain how I'm the baaaaws of my life when it comes to living at home with my parents over the holidays!
If you are a uni student, its normal to dread going back home because you feel like the freedoms you had at uni are now gone. But, it's possible to be the boss and take charge of your own life even when you are back at home!
Afterall, I started this blog in my old bedroom and started to shape my future from then on! Who knew down the line this little blog would take me to meet the Spice Girls, London Fashion Week, Youth Media Summit and loads more?
So, here's what get's me through living under the reign of my parents during the holidays:
1. Be Clear From The Start - As soon as you plant that suitcase down in the hallway, you need to sit down with your folks and lay down some rules. Basically you need to make sure you are on the same page as them to avoid any communication breakdowns.
2. Realise You're Not Actually The Boss - Yeah, I lied to you, soz. Seeing as you don't contribute to rent/mortgage, it is not your house, so technically you lose by default and your folks rule the roost.
But it doesn't mean your voice isn't important. As you live in the house, you have every right to use its facilities
3. Privacy - Your parents need to respect your privacy [e.g., your bedroom, shed, studio, etc] and you need to do the same.
4. Don't Ignore Your Parents - They may be super annoying and seem to always be around you, but that's just how it is! Once a month [or more, if you dare], why not spend a day with them? Shopping, seeing a film or eating out is a good way to get back into the swing of living together and perhaps, even liking it!
5. Take Responsibility - Don't default into child mode when things go wrong and your parents blame you for something. As you're an adult now [or trying to be], it's best to just own up if you were responsible and explain the situation as well as you can.
6. Pull Your Weight - I've learnt that it doesn't matter if you're 13, 20 or 50, chores and other housework will always exist...everyday...day and night... So the only thing you can do [apart from complaining] is set up a rota and get on with it. I hate doing the dishes and vacuuming, but I just stick in my earphones, drown out the world and it's done in no time!
giffgaff are offering free sim cards to their members in order for them to cease control and do what they want with their phones.
Despite the odd row now-and-again, living in harmony with your parents makes it easier to be the boss of your own life and start steering your life in the direction you want.
We're All The Boss!