A note from Joelle...
♫ ♪ 'Carry On' - fun. ♫ ♪
I'm a firm believer in taking breaks to recharge when life isn't going the way I planned.
I turn off my phone, abandon all social medias and just think more, oh and read. I read a lot.
It doesn't mean giving up and crawling under the duvet for a week, but instead taking time out to be alone to really talk to myself (and God) about what's bugging me. I talk/pray/cry/eat something/laugh/listen, repeat until I finally get an answer!
It might not be the answer I was looking for or wanted, but my issues almost always seem to melt away when I apply my new outlook on the situation.
My friends hear me use the phrase: 'It's not that deep' a lot and I know they are totally miffed by my London slang.
It basically means, the current situation will pass and it's not that serious! Sure, it can't be applied to everything, but it can make me feel better in a lot of cases.
For example, a few weeks ago, I really struggled with a bit of coursework. I've never submitted in work late in my entire time at uni and for some reason, not getting it in on time really hurt. It was like I'd failed the whole course.
It seems silly looking back on it because 'it wasn't that deep'. But in those moments of despair when you think you're not in control of your own life, even the tiniest things seem like they can destroy you.
When you feel like you're falling apart, you needn't wallow in self-pity or lock yourself away from others. Instead, just apply the art of making a brand new start.
Look back at your situation, not with guilt/anger/anxiety, but with a fresh, new outlook.
And if you still want to try again, go for it!
That's what I tend to do and I feel myself emotionally and mentally stronger than before!
You either win, or you learn! No losers here!
Nate, the lead singer of Fun. penned the lyric: "If you're lost and alone, or you're sinking like a stone: carry on. May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground and carry on."
It may not sound like much, but that is some real poetry about perseverance and getting back up, right there!
The truth is: I can either have a shit life, or a really great life. It's that simple. Of course thing won't always go my way - mais, C'est la vie!
Even if you're thoughts aren't bright yet, brighten up your surroundings with fresh flowers, scented candles, your favourite, books/mags, etc. until your brain catches up.
Because it's probably not that deep.
As long as I've got a heart that beats, eyes that see, a brain that thinks and a mouth that speaks, I'll be okay.