A note from Joelle...
Relationship goals, body goals, makeup goals, hair goals, career goals, family goals, food goals, interior goals, wedding goals, LIFE goals.
After typing "goals" so many time, the word now looks really weird to me!
This is a word we are use to seeing in the comments of someone's Instagram, YouTube, blog or Twitter, am I right?
It's a form of compliment that means: "I aspire to have what you have". But it is easy to start looking at people's lives through their rose-tinted filters and believe their hype.
I don't mind holding my hands up and saying that I spent waaaaaay too much time believing other people's hype. Even though I knew that no one was perfect, I bought into the whole "goals" complex and started to adjust my life to make it look all glossy and, dare I say it... "likeable" *shudders*.
I often looked at my allegedly boring life and couldn't help by be jealous of all the girls with flatter stomachs, glossier hair and perfect vegan salad bowls.
Yes, I was inspired, but a part of that inspiration involved me knocking myself down in the process of bigging them up! Was that healthy? I don't think so.
If I, a 21-year-old woman bought into this crap, just think about all the teenagers who are growing up with social media engrained into their souls?
One can only hope that they are able to separate real life from virtual life, but something is telling me that that's not the case.
We are surrounded by our favourite models, celebs, YouTubers on our phones 24/7, so it can feel like our lives are shit compared to theirs.
We believe their hype and compare them to our own situation.
And then we spend so much precious time and money glossing over our looks, opinions, thoughts, etc, to look as polished and "perfect" on social media.
And then we all become the same - watered down versions of each other, all trying to look as clean-cut as possible in order to feel a part of the "liked" crew.
Where's the fun in that?
We want to create a hype and have people believe it, just like we believed other people's.
Everyone is creating their own virtual "brand", after all.
It's so easy to look at Youtube, Pinterest and Instagram and think that people are living a whimsical. Even though we all know it's not true, there's still something at the back of our mind that makes us follow them out of curiosity (and slight jealousy).
We are all guilty of this one - myself included.
It's okay to admire other people and get inspired, but for our own sanity we must:
1) Remember we are individually awesome - even if we are not where we want to be in life right now.
2) Know that we only see what people want us to see, therefore it's not a full representation of themselves!
We have all spent the past year making other people's "lives" our goals, but now it's time to be our own "goals".
Let's go into 2016 knowing that behind every Insta snap is a fed up friend/boyf/girlf who just wants to go back into a warm room.
Behind every perfect instagram meal is a really hungry person, who now has to eat a soggy/cold lunch.
Behind every "perfect" selfie are 100 wacky ones that will never make it onto the Internet!
Life is too short to build your life off the back some someone's looks/success/ideals of beauty.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's only green where YOU water it!
You are enough!